We experience numerous events in life. Some of these events are pleasant ones which make us happy, whereas, some of them are disappointing and aggravating. We respond differently to these events which we experience throughout our life.  


That is to say, to finish school and graduate makes us happy. To the contrary, we become depressed when we are not successful in our university exams. Parenting a child makes us happy. The loss of a loved one disappoints us and can  even lead us to  despair.

There are, generally, two ways in which people react to events:  The first category of reactions are our emotional ones. The second category  are our rational ones.. Inasmuch as we display  emotional reactions, in the end we tend to act rationally.


To be unjustifiably reprimanded by our superiors hurts  and even aggravates us. We feel like saying so many things but we hold back. Because we know if we did such a thing we would have to resign and quit our job and doing would lead to unemployment. This is why we choose to keep our calm and silence.  The momentous aggravation is our human and emotional attitude. Because almost anyone would become aggravated by such an experience. To be patient and retain our silence is our rational attitude. Because a momentous aggravation could lead to our being fired. This is why we prefer to be patient and keep our calm.


We are disappointed when we lose and bury  a loved one like a very close relative.  We are, actually brokern hearted.  But, we do not deny life and bury ourselves with the deceased. This is a rational attitude we display with patience. Because we know that despite everything,  that life continues as usual from where someone has left it.


We shall try you in order to know who are the fighters among you, and who are men of  fortitude, and verify your histories. VERSE 31, MUHAMMAD,  SURAH 47


Actually, patience is an attribute we have to employ frequently during our life.


Some people think to display patience, when we encounter an event, is to concede  . Whereas, patience is not concession but to the contrary struggle. It is a struggle we have with our flesh.


We can see numerous samples of the display of patience in our surroundinrgs.


To parent a child we have to be patient for nine months. When we plant a tomato seedling in our garden  we have to wait for it to ripen  before we can eat any tomatoes.


As humans we want every thing we desire  to happen at once. Patience  is a virtue which enables us to mature and act  rationally when we encounter demoralizing, depressing and aggravating events.


Truly man was created very impatient






(AKIN ÷RSMEN 4.11.2009)



(*)The Quranic verses are taken from Ahmed Aliís translation,Al-Quran Princeteon University Press, fifth printing 1994