In ancient Egypt there was once a young man by the name of Joseph. He had fallen in love with woman of the house of which he was a slave. And the woman admired him, too. And the woman offered to sleep with him. In fact, she insisted. But, Joseph’s faith prevented him from committing such an act. Instead of committing an act prohibited by his Lord, he preferred to bury his love in heart.


But she in whose house he was, sought to seduce him from his (true) self: She fastened the doors, and said: “Now come, thou (dear one)!”: He said: “God forbid! Truly (thy husband) is my lord! He made my sojourn agreeable! Truly to no good come those who do wrong! And with (passion) did she desire him, and he would have desired her, but that He saw the evidence of his Lord: thus (did We order) that We might turn away from him (all) evil and shameful deeds. For he was one of Our servants, sincere and purified. VERSES 23-24, JOSEPH (YUSUF) SURA 12


Sometimes we are confronted with desires the tempt us and are even beyond our control. Actually, some things thatwe emphatically desire may harm us and our surroundings. We either are not aware of this  or do not care.


. . . but it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you,  and that ye love a thing which is bad for you.  But God knoweth, and you know not. VERSE 216, THE HEIFER (BAQARA) SURA 2


Sometimes what you think is love, is nothing but lust. And about lust Mevlana said:”LUST IS LIKE A STOVE, WHATEVER THE AMOUNT OF WOOD YOU PUT INTO IT,IS HOW MUCH IT BURNS YOU.”


Generally, women take an emotional approach regarding their spouses’ having an affair.

“My husband  would never cheat on me because he loves me” they say. That is,                                   

they think their spouse’s fidelity is because they love their wives.


Whereas, adultery should not be condoned because it is an act that God Almighty prohibits and described as evil.


Come nigh to adultery. For it is shameful (deed), and an evil opening the road (to other evils), VERSE 32, THE CHILDREN OF ISRAEL (BANI ISRA-IL) SURA 17


But if you tell your spouse, “I can’t cheat on you. . .because God prohibits me from committing such an act,” She will take offense, be hurt and may not even speak to you. If you want to,just try it. . . But this is the right way to think about it.


Sometimes you do not do something you like very much, just because your loved one does not want you to. And sometimes you do something you do not like at all, just because your loved one wants you to. This is true love. The criterion of love is sacrifice.  God’s love is without condition and from the heart.


If you avoid adultery because of the love you feel towards your spouse, then the love for your wife precedes that you have for God.


On the other hand, if you think that if you commit an act that God prohibits and that having done so will humiliate you in His presence. . .


You will have answered Joseph’s question correctly.






(AKIN ÖRSMEN 11.20.2006)


* The Coranic verses have been taken from the Holy Qu’ran, A. Yusuf Ali, 1975 Publication, Pitman Press, Great Britain